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Sunday, March 31, 2019

The Secret to Retirement

     You may know Ernie Zelinski as the author of the bestselling retirement book How to Retire Happy, Wild, and Free. The other day he sent me a copy of his new book, The Joy of Being Retired, and since I had just written my previous post "What Do We Love About Retirement?" I was interested to find out what he had to say on the issue of happiness in retirement.

     So I cracked open the 212-page book, which consists of 365 reasons why "retirement rocks," plus 50 bonus reasons. This is not a book you read cover to cover. It's a book you dip into occasionally to get a jolt of inspiration, a reminder of how we are lucky to be retired.

     His reasons why retirement rocks range from . . .

     The simple -- Reason # 4: You get to appreciate one of life's great pleasures -- lots of time on your hands -- and follow the good advice that comes from the menu in a Canadian restaurant: "If you're not served in 5 minutes, you'll be served in 8 or 9, or maybe 12 . . . Relax!"

     To the silly -- Reason # 247: When you retire you finally get to switch to a new boss -- from the one who hired you to the one who married you.

     To the serious -- Reason # 69: Retirement is the time you truly realize that happiness is not based on possessions, power and prestige -- but on relationships with people you love and respect.

     Zelinski is a Canadian who "retired" in 1980 at the age of 31 when he was fired from his engineering job at a power company . . . for taking too much vacation. "I wanted to take some extra vacation," he told me. "The company said no, and I took it anyway. So they fired me. It was the best thing that ever happened to me."

     He didn't retire, exactly, but he was through with the corporate world. He took an extended vacation, then went back to school (surviving on student loans), and spent time teaching at a vocational school.

     He took on some speaking engagements, and he knew he had some practical advice books he wanted to write. The first one, The Joy of Not Working, focused on creativity. He sent his manuscript off to a number of publishers, only to get back a series of rejection slips. So he self-published the book. It came out in 1991 during an economic recession, when everyone was writing books about how to keep your job or get a new job. "And guess which book got all the attention?" he said.

     From there he went on to write How to Retire Happy, Wild, and Free, which has sold almost 400,000 copies. At last count he has published 17 books in all. He lives in Edmonton, Alberta, where he works part time as a life coach, professional speaker and "unconventional career expert." His mission, he writes, is to "help individuals create a better work/life balance in their lives and to help them pursue their dreams."

     His whole approach to life left me with some questions, which is why I wanted to talk with him. His "reasons why retirement rocks" offer plenty of ways for retirees to stay busy with gardening, reading, going to classes, volunteering. But I know many retirees are busy, but don't feel that they have a real purpose in life. I wanted his insights into how people organize their activities into a purposeful life.

     He agreed that people need a purpose, but he says it can be as simple as just enjoying our leisure time or taking care of our health or cultivating our relationships with family and friends. He told me about a friend of his who retired from an engineering company in Delaware. The friend moved to Phoenix, and now he loves just being retired. He plays a lot of pickleball and organizes tournaments and enjoys his leisure time and making new friends. He's energized and excited enough about his new life that he gets up at 4:30 in the morning, because he can't wait to greet the day. The man doesn't need any extra purpose than that.

     But Zelinski will readily admit that finding a purpose in retirement depends on what people want, and is really up to the individual. Zelinski says that he will continue to write books, and hopes to get to 25 before he's done.

     He has also created an award for creativity at the University of Alberta School of Engineering and another at the University of Alberta School of Business. The awards are not given for scholarship, but for quirky brilliance in either coursework or extracurricular activities. He feels this is a way for him to make a difference, while still enjoying the freedom of retirement -- the freedom to wake up when he wants, go to bed when he wants, and in the interval work and play at the things he wants to work and play at, all at his own pace.

     I had to ask him: What is the secret of retirement? He talked about the freedom to do what you want, the freedom from having a boss and being a slave to the clock. He talked about the importance of friends and community. But he also said it's important to relax, and just be in the moment. Or as he says: Being in joy of yourself.

23 comments:

Red said...

Since Edmonton is close to where I live I hear him on some of our talk radio shows. Yes, he's an interesting guy.

DUTA said...

The purpose In Retirement is quite obvious - prolong Life and delay its 'finale', Death.
To do the above, most people rely on meds and doctors; others tend to minimize stress and carefully watch nutrition. Contrary to belief,in the majority of cases the two approaches don't go well together. You have to choose one.

At this stage (Retirement - not at 31 but at over sixty), most people already have a roof over their head, food on the table,and grown-up children living on their own; so the purpose is attainable.

DJan said...

I like to tell people that I used to work, and now I work out. I love having the ability to arrange my days according to my own schedule, and having settled into a routine that nourishes me. :-)

Tom said...

DJan -- Sounds like you certainly know the secret of retirement!

Diane Dahli said...

Thanks for sharing 'the secret of retirement' with us, Tom! It took me much too long to discover it. When I retired, I thought I had to have a second career, of sorts, since I believed my pension was inadequate. But that didn't pan out, and instead, I embarked on a life which was much more satisfying. It turned out that I didn't need to focus on finances, that my life, once I had a creative focus, was not that hard to fund. Great post, as usual!

Wisewebwoman said...

Having met with a small group yesterday whose purpose is to put measures in place to end the crisis of poverty among senior women (not just in Canada but in the US)I find these books only addressing the privileged few who don't have to worry and stress and use food banks.

Sorry to be such a downer Tom but the reality out there is appalling for those who laboured for free long and hard and unpaid, raising children, feeding, clothing and educating them with nothing to show in the way of now living in "freedom" when every penny is measured out and heat and food weighed as to what can be afforded. My heart breaks frequently.

But enough, I could go on. I feel fortunate I have a little energy (not much these days tbh) to focus on this and hope to instigate some change in policies.

XO
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gigi-hawaii said...

Being creative equals a happy retirement. After creating babies, I went on to create books, newspaper articles, play the violin and cook something new and different in the kitchen.

jono said...

While I am still a couple of years out from actual retirement I have a good start on being better to me which in turn should make me better toward others. Maintaining physical and mental health is an integral part of that.

Rebecca Olkowski said...

I remember reading that book at some point. I think it was after going on a sailing trip to the Caribbean and then dreaming of living on a Caribbean island after retirement. It's probably packed away in a box after I moved.

Anonymous said...

I wonder if the book addresses people who retire because of medical issues and unable to do the things they planned to do in retirement. While I'm lucky enough to be able to do the things I want to do, I have a friend who isn't and who has started drinking heavily.

Sheila

Donna said...

I read The Joy of Not Working along with Your Money or Your Life in my youth and they greatly influenced me. I couldn't figure out how to stop working but I did reduce my hours and worked part time for over 25 years and than retired. I was lucky to have a part time job that had benefits. I lived a simple life as time was always more important to me than money. I realize that most of the population can't do this, but that's what worked for me.

Janis said...

I picked up a copy of How to Retire Happy, Wild, and Free several years before I retired and appreciated reading about what that (now this) time of my life could look like. I like how he answered your question about finding a purpose in retirement. I think some of us feel that we need some lofty goal or great passion in order to accomplish this. It's not necessarily true for everyone. Being happy, staying (or becoming) healthy, and treating others with kindness are perfectly fine purposes.

Kathy @ SMART Living 265.com said...

Hi Tom! Not sure how I missed reading any of Zelinski's books. They sound like something I would enjoy and that I have actually lived for some extent. Of course, I don't consider the freedom I have experienced in my life to be retired. Being self employed my husband and I have pretty much enjoyed "waking up when we want, going to bed when we want , working AND playing when we want...all at our own pace." Of course there are tradeoffs with that, and of course we have sometimes chosen to work rather than just play, but we've always maintained it was our choice. And like I've mentioned before, I think one of the biggest reasons people retire is to get away from soul-sucking work. Zelinski shows that there is another way. ~Kathy

David @iretiredyoung said...

Some interesting thoughts. I liked the Canadian menu quote. Why do we, retired or otherwise, get so upset and sometimes angry about a few minutes. It's pretty daft, and it's good advice to put it into context and relax.

Zelinski's comments on purpose seem to tie in with my own thinking now, albeit this is changed from a few years ago. When I first retired, I thought a grand purpose was important, and that it needed to be something significant. Over time I've changed my view. I still think we need some direction in our lives, but it doesn't need to be a big deal, it just needs to be something that works for the individual, and if that's something small, then no problem.

Anonymous said...

Can you baby boomers hurry up and fucking drop dead? Enjoy your retirement homes cause we younger people will not take care of you even if we wanted to, due to the shitty economy you boomers created. Do you boomers realize that the younger generation is simply waiting for you to fucking drop dead?

You are all going to end up in retirement homes and we all know that the elderly gets treated pretty badly in retirement homes. Well, that's what you get for ruining your own children's lives. Even if your children WANTED to take care of you, they couldn't, due to you boomers destroying the economy. So I hope you enjoy the retirement homes, boomer scum!

Enjoy going to hell, baby boomers!

RetiredJeff said...

Hi Anonymous - You apparently are pretty angry and dissatisfied with your life to post your diatribe that has absolutely nothing to do with the topic at hand. But rather than dismiss you for it I would actually like you to elaborate. Why exactly are you so angry at Baby Boomers? Why do you believe we have created a bad economy when, in fact, most economic indicators are strong? Even the US Stock Market is still strong. Please defend your position and justify your statements.

Hi everyone else - I have read two of Ernie’s books and thoroughly enjoyed his style and overall message. Neither focused much on the financial aspects choosing instead to focus on the benefits of retirement and finding your own purpose. Plus I enjoyed the many quotes throughout the books.

Jeff

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