tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-626594980028435818.post4307018967460982029..comments2024-03-28T18:11:40.841-04:00Comments on Sightings Over Sixty: Should She Take Him Back?Tomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08611148987085476580noreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-626594980028435818.post-36357322857342459302014-11-27T11:03:23.473-05:002014-11-27T11:03:23.473-05:00Please. Why was the momma's boy even talking t...Please. Why was the momma's boy even talking to his parents about this and why are you involved. Just go,watch a soap opera!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-626594980028435818.post-28892530023404914602014-07-07T16:53:33.715-04:002014-07-07T16:53:33.715-04:00I think they are mismatched. They both need to for...I think they are mismatched. They both need to forget it. If they were right for each other they never would have split. They would have worked out disagreements without a break. Heidrun Khokhar, KleinsteMottehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16174142810114806410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-626594980028435818.post-89574332441141955612014-06-23T18:17:12.821-04:002014-06-23T18:17:12.821-04:00He need to walk away. She is playing him for fool....He need to walk away. She is playing him for fool. She does not want a relationship with him. She wants to control and guilt him. He will never be happy with her because she will not let him.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-626594980028435818.post-67743060522053779602014-06-23T10:17:03.147-04:002014-06-23T10:17:03.147-04:00Janice needs psychiatric help. Chris would be stu...Janice needs psychiatric help. Chris would be stupid to get back together. Shakespeare said it best in hid sonnet: Love isn't love when it alteration finds. Janice does not love Chis. He needs to move on. She is a control freak. It's called the come here go away dance. Chris will never be happy with this woman. But guys can be stupid. When she 'forgives' him for something that was not her business at the time, and they finally get married, he will live with a controlling bitch until he reaches his 40s and screws up the courage to have a real fling with someone twenty years younger. He also needs help to discover why he is addicted to this toxic woman. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-626594980028435818.post-86490340035810154012014-06-23T06:38:03.275-04:002014-06-23T06:38:03.275-04:00Are we to believe that Janice never "sampled&...Are we to believe that Janice never "sampled" other men or even women when she wasn't with Chris? I'll bet she's been around, but her dalliances aren't commonly known like Chris's is. I'd bet she'd drop him in a minute after marriage for another chance at the glamorous life. She'd then blame Chris for suppressing her dreams.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-626594980028435818.post-67071713752238127892014-06-22T17:23:44.263-04:002014-06-22T17:23:44.263-04:00Love shouldn't be this difficult. It's rig...Love shouldn't be this difficult. It's right or it wrong. That's it. If you can't get along when your dating. God help you when the kids come and life now is focused on raising a family. I would DEFINITELY move on. There are plenty of people out there. Better to be alone then end up being a statistic.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-626594980028435818.post-76109529420994791422014-06-22T13:42:50.462-04:002014-06-22T13:42:50.462-04:00I would definitely have the most sympathy for my o...I would definitely have the most sympathy for my own child, but sympathy and support would not mean condoning or taking sides. At 30+ they are not children anymore and others never have the true picture of what goes on in an "adult" relationship. At almost 60 myself, I still have "aha" moments about my own parents relationship and wonder what really happened. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-626594980028435818.post-73049307772865933382014-06-22T12:21:39.608-04:002014-06-22T12:21:39.608-04:00I don't think their relationship has a chance ...I don't think their relationship has a chance of enduring, so forget about marriage. They just don't get along. Say aloha-good bye. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-626594980028435818.post-4704615887228034302014-06-22T12:18:00.019-04:002014-06-22T12:18:00.019-04:00Sounds like these too 'mature' people need...Sounds like these too 'mature' people need to figure out if they really belong together. And there is some info missing, like what was Chris doing while Janice was in LA, was he dating other people of waiting for her? From what little info we have I just don't see that either are ready for a true commitment. Maybe they just the idea of each other or are just addicted to each other.,,that does happen and that never seems to work out good for either party.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-626594980028435818.post-9182324373489544292014-06-22T12:10:29.031-04:002014-06-22T12:10:29.031-04:00In my observations of friends' marriages over ...In my observations of friends' marriages over the years, it seems that those relationships that were difficult before marriage continue to be difficult after marriage. I am fortunate to be in an easy relationship--before and after being married. It's fine if you choose to be in one of those difficult relationships, just as long as you know what you are signing up for.<br /><br />(The story isn't really about the cheating or not cheating--it's about how this couple resolves conflict. There will be some of that even in the easy relationships).Retired Sydhttp://retiredsyd.typepad.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-626594980028435818.post-36614627074613733592014-06-22T10:15:12.702-04:002014-06-22T10:15:12.702-04:00Why does this concern you? It's your son'...Why does this concern you? It's your son's life and he's an adult. He can deal with it.kentedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11186474989954173451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-626594980028435818.post-60853044330017317252014-06-22T08:58:50.805-04:002014-06-22T08:58:50.805-04:00Form an opinion, if you like. Or not. It doesn'...Form an opinion, if you like. Or not. It doesn't matter, they will do whatever they will do. My brother and his first wife were much like these two before they got married. And they took many years to get divorced... because they would meet to discuss it and end up in bed (according to my brother) every time. And then fight and split again. there is no advice you can give that either of them will take; their hormones are running the show. I side with neither. And I agree with others that they should "move on" because they will only give and get heartache if they get back together.Douglashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09752593286034877538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-626594980028435818.post-7012782616606443562014-06-22T08:29:52.358-04:002014-06-22T08:29:52.358-04:00Janice sounds too "high-maintenance" for...Janice sounds too "high-maintenance" for my tastes.Kirknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-626594980028435818.post-4908338589146014212014-06-21T23:06:32.394-04:002014-06-21T23:06:32.394-04:00The only ones who truly know whether or not trust ...The only ones who truly know whether or not trust was broken is the couple. People make mistakes and love can overcome incredible odds. Bottom line, this couple will have decide if they love each other enough to forgive one another and work on their issues. Pamnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-626594980028435818.post-44336753207172985492014-06-21T22:34:50.830-04:002014-06-21T22:34:50.830-04:00At 32, I would say that this is between the son an...At 32, I would say that this is between the son and the girl. While I might share an opinion if asked, as a parent this is, frankly, none of my business. I say this as the parent of someone 35 who is single but in a committed relationship that may possibly move forward. More importantly, I agree with the other poster in that I would NEVER discuss my 35 year olds "love life" outside of family, and probably not with them.<br /><br />That said, breaking up means free to move on. <br />Barbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15195838412173806659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-626594980028435818.post-30518018362073080762014-06-21T21:39:56.002-04:002014-06-21T21:39:56.002-04:00It really all depends on whether they were taking ...It really all depends on whether they were taking a break from each other or whether they were broken up completely to see others. Probably they both misunderstood the rules of the break-up as it was done emotionally. Personally if they are too immature to work it out themselves, they should not be seeing each other! I know, I am not being very sympathetic. They have issues.Taborhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15257045780724471840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-626594980028435818.post-41728116607887024032014-06-21T18:30:57.049-04:002014-06-21T18:30:57.049-04:00Walk away- both of them. Fault? If they are lookin...Walk away- both of them. Fault? If they are looking, it ain't going to last. Didn't last 20 years ago society, won't last I. This one. Walk away. <br />But then I give NO relationship advice before marriage. :)Janettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10054888725603183006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-626594980028435818.post-5999200126233285102014-06-21T18:11:02.776-04:002014-06-21T18:11:02.776-04:00I'm with him. This is the second time they pa...I'm with him. This is the second time they parted and maybe he thought they were truly over. Not married, not engaged, and not even together I say go for it, life's too short. Just sayingAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-626594980028435818.post-24949705573847932972014-06-21T17:58:28.088-04:002014-06-21T17:58:28.088-04:00They are both right! Miscommunication creates an a...They are both right! Miscommunication creates an awful lot of fuss. Who knows what goes on in anybodies brain? Without a complete understanding of the separation an its intent, its left open to debate. Janice needed space and Chris may have felt betrayed, who knows? Understanding and forgiveness , welcome to life and all its many ups and downs.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-626594980028435818.post-72817473419586157412014-06-21T17:10:31.619-04:002014-06-21T17:10:31.619-04:00fault lines like that in a relationship are not an...fault lines like that in a relationship are not an encouraging sign. They should both get over it and move on...in my opinion.Olgahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00692441479616299920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-626594980028435818.post-10488536506837626082014-06-21T17:06:51.549-04:002014-06-21T17:06:51.549-04:00A thirty-two year old guy isn't going to stand...A thirty-two year old guy isn't going to stand around forever waiting to satisfy his sexual urges and it he isn't married or even engaged he has every right to engage in consensual sex. This Janice sounds like trouble and he'd do best to avoid her and look for companionship elsewhere.stephen Hayeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17659054447637207734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-626594980028435818.post-26651546638141524942014-06-21T16:03:08.364-04:002014-06-21T16:03:08.364-04:00I don't think Chris was wrong for having his f...I don't think Chris was wrong for having his fling while he was "separated" from his fiancee. And I don't think that Janice is necessarily wrong for feeling that perhaps Chris was a little too ready to have his fling.<br />I do have doubts about the longevity of a couple who gets together/splits up/gets together/splits up repeatedly.<br /><br />When you're contemplating being married, at some point, you have to make up your mind that "forsaking all others" isn't always a walk in the park. And forgiving and forgetting ain't no picnic neither.<br />Junehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11710135137635433217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-626594980028435818.post-34830921835181004992014-06-21T15:58:20.864-04:002014-06-21T15:58:20.864-04:00I have no sympathy for either. I think they are fa...I have no sympathy for either. I think they are far too old for such prattish behaviour. They should grow up and decide what they want.<br /><br />They obviously find that a long term relationship is not what they’re after, certainly not with each other.<br /><br />What I find totally offensive, however, is that his parents tell their own friends the details of their son’s love life. The man is 32 for heavens’ sake.Frikohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04277167831642088694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-626594980028435818.post-57560892243501929222014-06-21T15:23:17.406-04:002014-06-21T15:23:17.406-04:00I think she doesn't want a permanent relations...I think she doesn't want a permanent relationship with him and she's playing with him in a really cruel way. IMHO, he should leave her alone and find someone else. Florencehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01157294752967287405noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-626594980028435818.post-71233334044321351842014-06-21T15:08:02.611-04:002014-06-21T15:08:02.611-04:00Janice sounds like she wants to have her cake and ...Janice sounds like she wants to have her cake and eat it, too. If they were not together, he didn't cheat on her. But frankly, I'm wondering if they shouldn't just start over with other people. If they get together, it doesn't sound like it has much chance of lasting. But what do I know? I'm just as much of a drama queen as she is, and I'd probably feel pretty much the same way. If he was having all the fun while she was thinking they were exclusive, just waiting for... something. It doesn't add up. My two cents. :-)DJanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07152183871573797791noreply@blogger.com