tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-626594980028435818.post2446805387411375601..comments2024-03-28T12:20:33.105-04:00Comments on Sightings Over Sixty: Death Be Not ProudTomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08611148987085476580noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-626594980028435818.post-87364985221575130352012-03-15T08:49:28.623-04:002012-03-15T08:49:28.623-04:00Two things struck me about that Murray article: (...Two things struck me about that Murray article: (1)the stunning arrogance of the writer ("It's not something that we like to talk about, but doctors die, too."). News flash, buddy. Nobody likes to talk about dying and you're just like the rest of us. Spare me. And (2) just who do you think has promulgated this myth on the American public that you can beat death over and over? Why DOCTORS, of course!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-626594980028435818.post-75560271216040295362012-03-09T18:53:23.095-05:002012-03-09T18:53:23.095-05:00It's DNR for me and, if only I can find a good...It's DNR for me and, if only I can find a good physician, a little help towards the end as well.<br /><br />We have palliative care now and nobody should die in agony, yet still, the kind of death some people have shouldn't happen to an animal. Oh stop, it doesn't, we put them down humanely.Frikohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04277167831642088694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-626594980028435818.post-75896769611118892482012-03-09T15:55:36.528-05:002012-03-09T15:55:36.528-05:00These choices are very personal - there's no r...These choices are very personal - there's no right or wrong.<br /><br />My brother died of pancreatic cancer at age 51 and did everything he could to stay alive as long as possible because he had 3 children under the age of 17. He went through a great deal of pain to remain alive an extra 15 months.<br /><br />I would not have done the same thing, but my children are grown and on their own so there are different circumtances.<br /><br />I'm not religious, but I have DNR, healthcare POA and will/trust done just because it makes good sense financially and for easing decisions that my family may need to confront.Catch Her in the Wryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13052541966405145087noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-626594980028435818.post-82405993074643267362012-03-08T19:17:24.426-05:002012-03-08T19:17:24.426-05:00I remember when that play came out I wish I could ...I remember when that play came out I wish I could see it!<br /><br />Being married to a lawyer, we have our wills and power of attorneys all in order. My parents died at 61 and 64, so I like to be prepared. I sure hope I live longer than they did, but you never know! But I think a lot of people are uncomfortable thinking about this stuff. My hubby knows what I want, and so does my friend (in case hubby and I are simultaneously incapacitated!)<br /><br />I read an interesting article on this sort of subject yesterday:<br />http://www.guardian.co.uk/society/2012/feb/08/how-doctors-choose-dieKnatoleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03809822081515082096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-626594980028435818.post-86036103781525076602012-03-08T19:12:29.631-05:002012-03-08T19:12:29.631-05:00We've done all the documents, and that in itse...We've done all the documents, and that in itself gives us peace of mind. I'm ready to go, but I'm not in a hurry.Dick Kladehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11793395712483278104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-626594980028435818.post-79795486815634635192012-03-08T18:13:17.479-05:002012-03-08T18:13:17.479-05:00Sometimes having a time frame helps one to make th...Sometimes having a time frame helps one to make those difficult decisions.<br />I have no fear of death but do have a fear of being tortured my last days.<br />I probably need to get a DNR tatoo on my chest just in case I get separated from my papers.Arkansas Pattihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14156004753267665579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-626594980028435818.post-46914488729571720042012-03-08T14:46:41.019-05:002012-03-08T14:46:41.019-05:00I have my DNR and Advanced Directive in order. I ...I have my DNR and Advanced Directive in order. I have read about how doctors die before...tells me something. It's kind of like they honor the old days. After my sister-in-law was diagnosed with amyloidosis, she went about the practical business of dying and putting affairs in order. She would cheerfully say, "It's not painful!"Olgahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00692441479616299920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-626594980028435818.post-10570247697513637852012-03-08T12:17:21.950-05:002012-03-08T12:17:21.950-05:00I saw the film. It had a profound effect on me and...I saw the film. It had a profound effect on me and changed the way I look at the way I want to die. I think it should be required viewing for everyone.<br /><br />I did an Advanced Directive and DNR awhile back and I am not religious-at all. You can always reverse them. I just don't want to live my last days in agony. People get upset with you when you don't want treatment and talk about how one should cling to life because it is so precious and on and on...<br />It would be nice if we would learn to better respect other people's decisions with regard to death and dying. We all will die someday. We can either accept its inevitability or die fighting. Neither choice is wrong.<br /><br />Thanks for this post June!!!Rubye Jackhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02511953177053448513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-626594980028435818.post-56509947824762821022012-03-08T11:33:11.498-05:002012-03-08T11:33:11.498-05:00I love John Donne, and loved Emma in Wit. No fan o...I love John Donne, and loved Emma in Wit. No fan of Cynthia's either. The last line of the play, "Angels sing you to your rest from Hamlet," broke me up.<br /><br />Death is a heavy topic. We have directives and I have purchased niches for cremated remains. Leaving nothing to the kids. <br /><br />Dianneschmidleysscribblins,wordpress.comhttp://schmidleysscribblins.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-626594980028435818.post-38667286065925923332012-03-08T11:31:38.526-05:002012-03-08T11:31:38.526-05:00I can't add much except to say that I was move...I can't add much except to say that I was moved deeply by your post and will be thinking about it for the rest of the day. My mother is eighty-six and in very good health but she refuses to deal with the future, refuses a power of attorney or any document stating what she wants to happen when she passes. When asked she says, "You know what I want. Just tell them." Of course the doctors won't do what I tell them without legal authorization, but so far I haven't been able to convince Mom.stephen Hayeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17659054447637207734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-626594980028435818.post-21298485625948009972012-03-08T11:03:27.440-05:002012-03-08T11:03:27.440-05:00This is an excellent, very important post, Tom. I ...This is an excellent, very important post, Tom. I think all of us struggle with the notion of end-of-life: the reality and the issues surrounding it. <br /><br />All of my older generation relatives have died and all of sudden cardiac death. That generally seems a good way to go except for the absence of goodbyes. However, I have warm memories of my last conversations with all concerned and like remembering them that way. I hope my departure will be the same, but at a later age than my parents, who died at 66.<br /><br />It makes sense to have health care directives, power of attorney, a will or trust and something written that lets your loved ones know your wishes regarding funeral, burial or cremation. One way of looking at it all is that you will have a brief time of discomfort thinking about it all and then once you have everything in place, you can forget about it.Dr. Kathy McCoyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02903015507894951725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-626594980028435818.post-27282465012161339372012-03-08T10:19:20.668-05:002012-03-08T10:19:20.668-05:00This is one of the most important posts I have rea...This is one of the most important posts I have read in a long time. I too have noticed that doctors past 65 do not fight cancer. I have also witnessed family members emotionally forcing elderly to take" just one more treatment. " <br />My uncle just died of cancer. He was 86 and took no therapy. I was so proud that he accepted that you have to die of something.<br />You might consider cutting this post in two and reporting them as sister entries on the same day...Janettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10054888725603183006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-626594980028435818.post-35043456862286225692012-03-08T09:52:19.412-05:002012-03-08T09:52:19.412-05:00That's one of my favorite poems.
I've ha...That's one of my favorite poems. <br /><br />I've had Last Rites three times -- so far -- and the Big Guy keeps throwing me back. I keep saying that God doesn't want me and Satan's afraid I'll take over. I just can't worry about it.Kay Dennisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02646717192332313215noreply@blogger.com